Daily living: meal prep, feeding if needed, laundry, housekeeping, shopping, errands, bill paying, phone support
Home and safety: basic repairs, yard work, snow removal, preventing unsafe behavior, reducing fall hazards
Social and emotional support: conversation, companionship, faith activities, counseling referrals, time with grandchildren, hobbies and letters
Transportation: rides to appointments, community activities, or adult day programs
Care arrangements to consider
Traditional family caregiving
Most long-term care in the U.S. is provided by unpaid family and friends at home.
Children who live far away can coordinate services and hire a care manager to oversee day-to-day needs.
Family caregiving with paid in-home support
Non-medical home care aides can help with ADLs, supervision, and routines.
This blended approach can prevent caregiver burnout while keeping your loved one at home.
Adult day programs
Daytime care, social engagement, meals, and supervision. Caregivers get reliable breaks for work or rest.
Community and communal support
Neighbors or faith groups may help with light housekeeping, shopping, companionship, medication reminders, or rides.
Shared living residence: 3–10 older adults share a home, reduce costs, and share household duties. Some are sponsored by community organizations; personal care requires licensed providers.
Who provides care—and how costs affect families
Spouses: Often face little direct financial change if they are not employed, but the emotional and physical strain can be significant. Caregiver burnout can lead to serious health issues. Plan for respite and backup.
Adult children and relatives: May reduce work hours or leave a job. Costs can be offset when a loved one contributes their income toward household expenses, or when room and board is shared.
Mix of care: Many families combine unpaid care with paid help at home or adult day care to protect health, income, and relationships.
When home is no longer feasible: Consider assisted living, memory care, continuing care retirement communities, or nursing homes. These can be costly; early planning helps protect a spouse’s finances and standard of living.
How to choose the right care (simple 5-step guide)
Assess needs
List ADLs, supervision, safety risks, mobility, memory, and mood changes.
Check caregiver capacity
Health, sleep, physical strength, schedule, and emotional limits.
Review budget and benefits
Savings, long-term care insurance, veterans benefits, Medicaid eligibility, and community programs.
Explore services
In-home aides, adult day care, care management, respite, home safety updates, or shared living.
Pilot and review
Start with part-time help. Reassess monthly and adjust hours or services as needs change.
Safety and home setup tips
Reduce fall risks: clear walkways, add grab bars, non-slip rugs, bright lighting, and shower chairs.
Medication safety: pill organizers and clear labels; set reminders.
Wandering prevention: door alarms, simple locks, and ID bracelets for dementia.
Emergency readiness: posted contacts, medical info, and a charged cell phone within reach.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is home care more affordable than a care facility?
It can be, especially when only part-time help is needed. Costs depend on hours, local rates, and level of care. A short consultation can give you a tailored estimate.
What do in-home caregivers typically do?
Help with bathing, dressing, toileting, meal prep, light housekeeping, medication reminders, supervision, companionship, and transportation.
How do we prevent caregiver burnout?
Use respite (relief) care, adult day programs, and shared care schedules. Protect sleep, ask for help early, and consider bringing in trained aides for physically demanding tasks.
What if my loved one has dementia and wanders?
Add supervision, door alarms, simple locks, ID bracelets, and structured routines. Consider memory care day programs or trained dementia aides.
Can we combine family help with paid care?
Yes. Blending unpaid and paid support is common and often the best way to keep a loved one safely at home.